The Big 5

Here are some of the tips I talked about on Sunday to help people "Invest" in a relationship. I prefaced all this with a much needed statement. When we "Invest" in people we are inviting people into our lives, not the church. We're not looking to produce door-to-door evangelists, we are looking to challenge and equip people to invite people into your life because we believe community is where transformation can really happen .

Here are some things that may help...

1. Walk, Don't Wave

Waving is a nice gesture, but no meaningful relationship comes from a wave. When you see your neighbor take out the trash, why don't you walk over and have a conversation with them instead of giving a wave.

2. Find Common Ground

In other words, look for a connecting point that resonates with you. If you love sports and you see someone wearing a team you like or dislike, ask questions, tease them about how your team is better, etc.

3. Get their Contact Info (Facebook, cell number for texting, Twitter, email, etc.)

Don't be creepy about this! If you're part of a network (school, parks, sports, etc.) and you know you will see this individual again, you don't have to ask for their digits the first time you meet, but if you have a great conversation with someone and you know you probably won't see them again...you gotta get their information. What's the worst that can happen? They won't want to be your friend...I've had plenty of experience with that...it's not that traumatic.

4. Invite them to a Social Event

Once you get their contact information (which I hope is legitimate), make sure you invite them to something low-key and fun. Go grab a coffee or beer, go to sporting or park event, invite them to play video games if that's your thing. It doesn't really matter what it is as long as it is low-key and fun (and appropriate).

5. Don't Do This Alone!!

Do something fun with someone else you know. Don't feel like you have to do this by yourself. It's easier to meet others in a group...plus it models this lifestyle to those you bring with you.